Motherhood can be beautiful and could also be mentally exhausting. Some days, I feel like I’m just running on caffeine and willpower. But lately, something has helped me stay a little more grounded: rekindling friendships with old classmates and friends who are now moms, too.

The best part?

They’ve been on my shoes! 🙌🏽

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Their kids are older — around 4 to 12 years old.. which means they’ve already been through the stages I’m currently in. It feels great that suddenly m, I have this little support group that I never knew I needed. 🫱🏻‍🫲🏼🫶🏼

It’s so unexpected. But, I am really grateful. 💛

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Don’t get me wrong — this isn’t the only group I have.

It’s just that.. some of my closest friends aren’t parents yet and some of my mom friends are miles away.. living in other provinces or even other countries. I appreciate them just as deeply. They’re the ones who replies to my 11 p.m. rants, send comforting words when I’m overwhelmed and cheer for every small mom win from afar. I also have different discussions with them. 🤭

But, these mom friends, the ones I recently reconnected with, are a special kind of sanity-saver too.

I find myself constantly asking them things like:

“How did you do potty training?”

“When did you start?”

“What do you feed your picky eater?”

“Do you have a pedia you actually trust?”

— over cups of coffee, drinks and meal. And they always have real answers — not the kind you read from parenting books but from their actual experiences.

What I love even more is that they’re past that ‘everything has to be scheduled’ phase! They can actually go out unplanned! So once in a while, when they have free time, they’ll message:

“Coffee tayo?” or I will message them: “Sino free? / Free ba kayo?”.

And somehow, we make it happen. Even if not everyone could join. 🤗

These moments.. the quick meetups, group chats and honest conversations.. have been such a breath of fresh air! I’m learning so much from them, but more importantly, I’m reminded that I’m not alone. 💪🏽

It’s comforting to have friends who’ve already survived the stage I’m in. They give me hope, laughter and perspective — and that’s something no parenting book could ever teach!

Because sometimes, keeping your sanity as a mom isn’t about having it all together.. it’s about having the right people beside you who remind you that you’re doing okay.. 💛 and that if you need some time to just chill and be entertained to go somewhere, they’re will to join you. 💖

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